The new main stream thing: mass shootings!

As many of you are aware of, there was another movie theater shooting last night in Lafayette, Louisiana. Another white male, standing up and shooting among his peers. It’s fine, it’s just another one, life goes on right? See, that’s the issue right there. These mass shootings have been occurring much more often in the past decade and each time, there seems to be excuses made to back up each one.

“He used to be such a good kid, he just got off track somehow.”
“He was just crazy, simple as that, and there’s nothing we can do about it.”
“Something must have angered him.”
“He had a tough childhood…”
“Maybe if everyone had a gun on them…”

Hold on.

Maybe if everyone had a gun on them? Let’s talk about that for a moment. Bring your thoughts back to Sandy Hook – where the victims were young elementary school children. There is absolutely no way they would have a gun on them; I am going to assume that would be considered common sense. So okay, maybe all the teachers and administration should be armed. That way we can teach young children to fear everyone around them and show that the world is truly an unsafe place… sounds like a great idea!

It is so depressing and honestly, a little pathetic that these shootings continue to happen in our country without any consequences. How many more people have to die in order for a gun control law to be put in place? How much longer should people have to live in fear of dying when they go out at night? Or when they go to class? Or just by walking out of their house?

It’s time for us to stop protecting the criminal. It’s time for the excuses to stop – there should be no insanity plea in these types of cases. This is pure evil, pure hatred, and deserves a true punishment. Our country needs to step up and protect its people.

Young women like Mayci Breaux and Jillian Johnson could still be with us today. Now is the time for our country to weep with their families, pray for them, and then work to fix the issue that has caused their deaths. We shouldn’t have to wait for another shooting like this one. For those families, life doesn’t just go on – it stops dead in its tracks.

There is a lot of support on social media sites such as Twitter and Facebook, but the thing is, a hashtag isn’t going to change anything. If you want a law to be made, start with your local government, talk to a representative or a congressman, do everything you can – because you can create change.

The time has come to end this long trend of fear.

Rest in peace Lafayette victims.

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Restaurant etiquette: why your complaints are probably unnecessary

I’ve been working in the restaurant business for almost two years now, and I’ve noticed a few things that really irk me. I’m currently a hostess and a carry out girl, and for some odd reason, people feel the need to complain to me about their food being cold or their service being slow or for any other inconvenience they might have experienced. Today I thought I would share with you some of my favorite complaints, and the responses that I kept held up inside. Keep in mind, these are actual quotes from actual people – even though they might seem absolutely ridiculous.

“Hi um, I’ve been here for about three minutes now, and my waiter still hasn’t come by, could you like, remind him that he has tables?” 

No way… really? He has tables? I bet he has absolutely no idea. Actually, your waiter probably has multiple tables that he’s currently attending to and he will most likely be there in just a couple more minutes. If he hasn’t shown up in ten, then come get me.

*Watches woman eat the avocado in her salad*
“Hi, miss, yeah could you come over here? There was no avocado on my salad, can you go get me some? Make sure your cook cuts a new one too, and make sure it’s really fresh.”

Okay, I know there was avocado on your salad and so do you. Also, the avocado that was on it was fresh. If you feel the need to have extremely specific ingredients, either bring your own or cook at home.

*Gives woman a medium well done steak instead of a medium*
“Hi, I ordered a medium steak, and this is obviously medium well, and honestly this is the most disgusting thing I’ve ever seen in my entire life.” 

Well honey, if a medium well steak is the most disgusting thing you have ever seen in your entire life, it looks like you are pretty well off, so congrats, and maybe try going to an actual steakhouse if you’re looking for a grade A steak.

*Gives woman a turkey burger*
“This is not a turkey burger. It’s obvious that it’s not. Look at the pattern of the ground beef here, you can tell it’s beef, and this is absolutely disgusting. Take this back and fix it.” 

THIS IS A TURKEY BURGER! I don’t eat beef either okay, I feel your pain, but I can tell you 110% that this is a turkey burger so eat it and enjoy it and please, for the love of god, stop inspecting the pattern of ground beef.

me: “Hi! Welcome, how many? Three? Okay it’s going to be about a ten minute wait, I just have to clean off a table and wait for our kitchen to catch up a bit!”
customer: “Ok well it’d better not be long.”
*Five minutes go by*
customer: “Seriously? Is our table ready yet? This is absolutely ridiculous, what are you doing, you obviously have no idea.”
me: “I was just about to seat you actually, like i said, i had to wait for -”
customer: “I don’t want to hear it, you are absolutely awful, you don’t know how to do your job, I am never coming back here, you are absolutely horrible.”

OKAY. HERE WE GO. One, if you hate a restaurant, why would you go there and put yourself through that? Two, what makes you think that I’ll treat you better if you’re rude to me? Three, if i say ten minutes, you have absolutely no right to complain until that ten minutes is up. Four, I AM A PERSON. I am making minimum wage to walk you to a table, I am not making minimum wage to be talked to as if I am not a human being. I am not paid to be your servant or your punching bag. If you disrespect me I will refuse to treat you nicely because you do not deserve any sort of kindness.

Okay, rant over.

Hopefully after reading this, you’ll understand how unnecessary half of complaints are. We know when your food is taking a while, we know when you’re waiting on us, we know when your food is right or wrong. We are people too, please do not treat us like we aren’t. We are trying to make your meal enjoyable, so please, help make our jobs enjoyable too.

20 things I will do

I had a teacher last year who forced us to write 20 things we will do in our lifetime. Looking back, it was one of the best assignments I had ever completed. It was a list that made you really think about what you aspire to be and what you truly want out of the life you were given. I still have the sheet of paper that I wrote my list on – it hangs above my desk so I can read it each and every day. It is my inspiration to keep going; because of that, I decided to share my list with you. Here it is:

1. Ride an elephant

2. Eat a meal that I don’t think I would usually try, such as escargot.

3. Swim with sea turtles (COMPLETED!)

4. Study abroad

5. Be able to say “I made it – I’m accomplished.”

6. Change someone’s perspective

7. Have a son and name him Luke

8. Have a daughter and teach her what it is like to always love

9. Get a tattoo

10. Visit every continent, including Antarctica

11. Write a short story

12. Learn how to dance

13. Win an award

14. Fall in love with a man and have a ridiculously happy wedding

15. Have a chalkboard wall in my house and cover it with quotes that I love

16. Give my time to those less fortunate than I

17. Have a conversation with someone who is homeless; make them laugh

18. Go on a spontaneous trip with someone I love

19. Make enough money to take my Dad on a trip with me

20. Find a way to prove to him that I love him, and make him proud of me.

21. Adopt a dog from the humane society (multiple dogs are okay too)

22. Buy my mom and stepdad a very expensive bottle of wine, then sit down and drink the entire thing with them

I know I had a couple more than 20, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing to have a lot of goals! I encourage you all to write your own lists, and if you do, send me the link! I would love to read them. This truly is one of the best ways to really reflect and get to know yourself a little bit better.
  

Pay attention to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love attention. What girl doesn’t? It’s gotta be one of the best things to receive. To have someone look at you like they truly want to talk to you, to have them compliment you, to feel wanted for just a moment. It is something that almost every person craves. It’s an addiction – once someone gives you that attention, you just want more and more.

I’ve noticed that it is one of the quickest things to disappear in relationships as well. I’m talking about all types of relationships – marriage, dating, friends, siblings, etc. The attention we give a person at the start just fades away more and more as we get closer with him or her. At the start you feel this need to connect with them, this subconscious need to always impress them. Yet as you get comfortable around the person, that feeling gradually goes away. You stop working as hard to impress them, stop working as hard to give them what they want.

I believe that’s the problem with so many relationships. Both parties crave attention, but neither is willing to give the other the time of day. In a dating situation, the boy stops saying good morning every morning, or doesn’t compliment what he likes about her. In a friendship, they forget about the other’s opinions and feelings. Parents forget that their kids are growing up. We don’t stop and think about the other person – a common quality of all people.

I need attention. I can honestly admit that. I like feeling like someone truly wants to talk to me. Like I am worth the effort. I also like putting in effort to talk to another person. I will gladly give a person my full attention if they want it. It’s what fuels a relationship. Two people will not connect if they cannot pay attention to one another. You know the cliche story, “I just couldn’t take my eyes off her, she was just so beautiful.” That is still a super common way for a guy to pick up a girl; by simply giving her attention.

I’m not a love doctor or anything, but if I had to give one solution to mending broken relationships, it would be to start paying attention to the person as much as you did when you first met them. You should never stop trying to impress the person. If they mean that much to you, you should want to do things to keep them close. That first moment means so much more than people think it does – that first moment of making eye contact, it’s the start of something that will never be the same. We as people need to recognize that and work with it, using it to our advantage.

We need to be loved as much as we need to love.